A Thank You to my Husband

Welcome to the February Carnival of Natural Parenting: Love and partners!

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month we’re writing about how a co-parent has or has not supported us in our dedication to natural parenting. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Dear Curtis,

I know it’s a cliche, but you truly are my rock. You keep me grounded—even when I don’t ask for it or it isn’t polite. You help me see logic when I’m overrun by emotion. You stand up for me when I’m not feeling confident enough to stand up for myself. I could not be a natural parent without you by my side.

First off, I could not have brought Peanut into this world the way she deserved without you. You were there with me every second of that 33.5 hours. Many speak of the experience that the woman goes through during childbirth, but the man (with the Bradley Method) goes through a very profound experience too. You pushed to give me counter pressure until your arms shook. Told me that I was strong enough when I wanted to give up. And when the ultimate moment came (sooner than we had expected, but not soon enough!) you handled it with the grace and efficiency that I was in too much pain to have.

In those early weeks of breastfeeding, you helped me as much as you could sans feeding the baby yourself. You brought me water, you helped me position her, and you fought (and continue to fight) the few people we’ve come across that weren’t 100% supportive. I feel confident that if I am ever confronted by strangers while breastfeeding in public that you will defend me.

When your parents hint that they don’t like our co-sleeping, you’re just as likely to explain the benefits as I am. When I show you funny things that OB’s have said on MyOBSaidWhat.com you laugh because you understand. You went with me every week to our Bradley Method class even when you had homework out your ears.

You stay up with Peanut so I can sleep. You play with her so I can cook dinner. You watch her so I can go to class. You’re a great father and I am lucky to have you as my husband.

Thank you for choosing me.

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30 thoughts on “A Thank You to my Husband

  1. I love this! My husband also did the counterpressure for loooooong hours, and it was such an incredible blessing. FYI for any potential next time, Sam pulled a wooden massager out partway through and it helped save some of his strength! But, anyway, more than the physical service during labor, I so know what you mean about the emotional support you received. When you’re flooded with emotions and sensations, you really need that steady rock! Beautiful letter. Thank you!

    • We had a massager and a ball that we were planning on using, but they were packed away in the hospital bag because I thought that I would have needed them at the hospital. Ha! Honestly, I don’t think anything besides the counterpressure would have worked at that point. Thanks though!

  2. Gotta love those Dads who are brave enough to do Bradley with us! Jon was reading his Bradley book at the store one day and a guy came in and was like, “oh no! watch out, it’s going to be terrible! We tried Bradley and it totally didn’t work!” But Jon stuck with it, and it wasn’t terrible at all. I wonder what happened to that guy in the store that made him say that? We’ll never know.

    • I obviously don’t have experience with other methods, but I wouldn’t do anything besides Bradley after our experience. I do not think I could have made it through labor without him being by my side like he was.

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  4. What a lovely tribute to Curtis. Having someone in your corner makes all the difference in the world, doesn’t it? :)

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  6. This is an inspiring post. Fathers are so integral to our children’s experience from the moment of conception. It is beautiful to read how dedicated and loving a man can be to his woman and child.

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  10. Beautiful. My hubby did Bradley with me to and really got into it. I was so proud. And he was my rock during birth. A far cry from my dad being in the waiting room when I was born!

  11. What a sweet letter to your husband! I’m so glad that you have such a supportive partner in parenting. Great post!

    Kristi, Live and Love…Out Loud
    @TweetingMama

  12. I love this! I don’t think women appreciate their spouses enough! Am I biased in saying I love the pictures posted too? I live reading your blog and I have been reading all of them!

    • You’re not biased because they’re great pictures! Thanks for reading!

  13. This is such a beautifully written letter… I almost cried. Aren’t these men just absolutely amazing. Funny how certain men can actually be a “girls best friend.” :) Thank you!

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