Knowledge is Power

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As I’m sure you all can tell, I try to do a lot of things in my life to influence other moms to breastfeed. There are various things that I do on a regular basis just to try to help other moms see the need to breastfeed. I have already thought of about 10 equal, but different directions I could take this post and they all have one theme in common–knowledge is power.

So many moms just aren’t given the knowledge they need to succeed at breastfeeding. They don’t know that it’s not supposed to be excruciating pain in the beginning because every other mom who ended their breastfeeding relationship too early tells them it was. They don’t know that there are so many sources out there for help because they feel alone and isolated with our society’s bias against talking about breastfeeding. Many moms don’t even know how much of a risk they are taking with their child by not breastfeeding.

So what I try to do is spread knowledge.

When I find out a friend of mine is expecting, I try to give her the knowledge so many other moms don’t have. I try to give her reliable places to get information online, I try to tell her about the La Leche League meetings near her, and I try to offer my help if she ever needs it. I may just end up being taken as noisy, but I feel that every expecting mom needs to know those things before they are in the situation where they need them.

When I read a new study that, yet again, shows more reason that breastfeeding is necessary, I do my best to spread the new information. I tell the people around me, I post blogs about it, and I’ll even post it on my Facebook status. I’m sure many of my Facebook friends think that I’m weird because of the things I post and I’m sure that the single men I know could certainly care less, but maybe they’ll remember even just the fact that I was posting about so many benefits of breastfeeding and when they have a baby, they’ll be supportive of their wife breastfeeding.

I have a friend who didn’t breastfeed for long with her first child. By the time we started hanging out, her daughter was already a toddler and I hadn’t had Peanut yet. She told me about her blood blisters and how painful it was and how sad she was that she didn’t succeed. When she had her second child after I had had Peanut, I just knew I needed to help her. I gave her all the information I could think of and I even took her to a Lactation Consultant at the Breastfeeding Cafe (there is one there that’s free every Sunday of the Cafe). She recently celebrated hitting the two year mark for breastfeeding.

I certainly don’t take credit for her story. I’m sure that they biggest thing that helped her was her pure determination to make breastfeeding work the second time around, but I would like to think that what I did helped her. Even in the smallest of ways. And that’s all I’m seeking to do, help. I give information to help. That’s the goal of all of my lactivism, just to help, and knowledge is the place to start.
 


 
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My Reliable Breastfeeding Resources

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I could do a big post today about how to find reliable online breastfeed resources. I could do a post about how many absolutely awful “resources” I’ve found over the last few years. I could do a post about following your instincts when taking any parenting advice and trying multiple things to figure out what works for you. I could do all of these thing, but quite frankly, I’m short on time.

So here are my top three resources I recommend to every pregnant and new mom. These three sites are ones that I trust with my life and have never let me down. Not only do they hold a wealth of information, but, in my opinion, it’s all great advice.

KellyMom.com- I’m sure that you’ve noticed me mentioning this site over and over throughout my blogs. It’s just fantastic. They have many links to studies and lists of other reputable sites for any certain topic. There are topics on all aspects of breastfeeding and it’s a great place to start when you have a question.

La Leche League- La Leche League in person is an incredibly valuable resource, but when you need information immediately and don’t feel like calling a leader, their website is just full of it. They also have links to sites and on top of that they have stories from moms. Become a LLL member and you’ll get their online magazine which is literally a magazine entirely devoted to breastfeeding.

Mothering.com- I loved their magazines, but they’re out of print now. I’d definitely recommend snagging some up before all of the back issues are sold. Their website is great, but what I’m really talking about here is their Mothering Dot Community. I love that there are so many like minded moms out there waiting to give you advice at any hour of the day. This is the first place I go when I have specific questions and there’s almost always someone who has been in the same situation just waiting to help. It’s great for support too.
 


 
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Pregnant Babywearing

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This is the only picture I have so far, sorry for the crappy quality.


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How Breastfeeding Through Pregnancy Helps ME

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Yeah, you read that right.

Of course I’m still nursing Peanut to benefit her. She still gets my antibodies (even though my milk is drying up). She still gets the comfort. Blah blah blah. One thing people don’t talk about often enough when it comes to breastfeeding benefits is how it benefits mom.

Nursing my toddler while pregnant has been different than just nursing my toddler in general, but the differences haven’t had anything to do with her, it’s all me being pregnant. Some days I don’t feel like getting off the couch. Some days when we’ve been running around all day I just want her to nap. Some days, like today, I’ve been sitting at the computer way too long and I still need to accomplish something when Peanut starts whining for my attention. Nursing helps all these situations.

And I’m sure it will continue after Twig is born. When I want to spend 2 weeks without leaving my basement, breastfeeding will keep her happy. When I forget to bring a snack, nursing to the rescue. When I just need to have her sit still for a few minutes because I’m tired, breastfeeding will be a life-saver.

It’s really been the theme of our nursing relationship. When Peanut was little, I used to say that without co-sleeping and breastfeeding I wouldn’t get enough sleep to function. When she grew into a toddler, I said that I couldn’t keep my energy without the little breaks that nursing provides. Now that I’m pregnant, I don’t know how I would parent through the ups and downs of pregnancy without the breast so readily available.

I don’t know why a mom would choose to wean and lose this wonderful and simple parenting tool. What other strategy can calm crying children, give you some rest, get them to sleep, and all at the same time, give them the most round nutrition and antibodies to boot? Nothing. I simply don’t know how I’ll parent when Peanut decides to stop nursing. Let’s hope that day doesn’t come too soon.
 


 
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My Nursing in Public Journey

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I don’t remember my first time nursing in public and I don’t remember seeing any moms nursing in public before I had a baby. What I do remember is my first times nursing in public without a cover.

I started nursing in public when Peanut was less than a week old. At first I used a blanket my mother-in-law had given me as a baby shower gift, but with Peanut being born in March, the temperatures soon started rising, which made the cover much too hot. So next I got one of those specialty nursing covers. While it was much better than the blanket, it was still horribly inconvenient. Screaming infant while I’m searching through my bag for the cover that had a bent rim from being in my bag (you can’t fold those covers entirely in half).

Peanut soon solved this dilemma for me by refusing to nurse under the cover. It was probably around June and she was 3-ish months (though honestly, now that I think about it, it could have even been May) when she started kicking and hitting and scratching me whenever I tried to nurse her under the cover. I don’t know if it was the heat or just that she was annoyed, but she simply refused.

I remember the last time this happened was when we were out to eat with another couple who were childless. I managed to nurse her under the cover in the restaurant, but when we got back to their place and she was hungry again, I just didn’t feel like fighting her. They had accidentally left their keys in their apartment and were trying to get in, so we were outside in the dark waiting for one of them to climb through a window. When she started fussing, I just decided “fine, whatever” and started to nurse her. I believe my husband gave me one surprised glance and the male half of that couple also gave me a surprised glance when we got back inside, but there was no mention of it. It just simply was.
 


 
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Nursing While Pregnant

15 weeks 1 day

My milk is all but gone.

I noticed it a couple weeks ago. One night she accidentally fell asleep before getting dinner. When she woke up hungry a couple hours later, I figured I’d just nurse her and she’s have a happy full tummy. Keeping her awake through the nursing was hard enough, but I realized that she only swallowed all of once or twice. I poked and prodded at the other breast to try to get some milk to come out, but there was nothing. I poked and prodded at the breast she had just been nursing on and could get just a tiny bit.

Really though, it hasn’t changed a thing. I’ve had to worry about getting Peanut more calories from food, but that’s alright. She’s still nursing at least a couple times in the morning, once before her nap, and once before bed. Sometimes she’ll ask to nurse if she sees other kids nursing, but that’s about it. It’s about where we were before I got pregnant and ever since I got pregnant. She’s obviously enjoying the cuddles at least since she’s not getting a ton of actual milk from it.

Luckily it hasn’t been to painful or anything. Occasionally I feel touched out or get the heebeegeebees, but we just stop nursing for a while and try again later. She {mostly} understands that she needs to stay still while she’s nursing and that she can’t jerk her head around. This is just as much for breastfeeding pain as it is for pregnancy pain. It doesn’t feel particularly good for 30 pounds to be jumping and wiggling on my stomach these days.

I’m 15 weeks and 1 day along now. The second trimester is treating me well thus far. Still incredibly thirsty. Still incredibly dizzy. Can’t spend a ton of time outside and moving with it being warm. Definitely can’t go long between eating.

Even though I feel like I’ve been eating like a cow, I’ve lost 5 pounds since becoming pregnant. My midwife says it’s fine so long as the baby is growing. I’m supposed to be getting 3000 calories a day with nursing and being pregnant, which she says is near dang impossible on a healthy diet. Honestly, while of course a healthy baby is the most important thing, I don’t mind losing a bit of weight. I never lost that last 10-15 pounds (which is apparently common when breastfeeding), so I’m still above my pre-Peanut-pregnancy weight. I’m sure I’ll start gaining like crazy soon and this will be a distant memory.

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Setting Myself Up For Success

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As I prepare for my upcoming birth, I am continually amazed at how different this preparation is from preparing for a hospital birth. With Peanut’s birth, I felt that I had to fight against everything. I had to force the nurses not to ask me about pain medication. Had to force the doctors to not give me unnecessary interventions. Had to force the nurses afterwards not to give my daughter bottles or binkies or take her from my room. I was so afraid of this that I was willing to travel 40 miles to a hospital that is Baby-friendly Certified to help prevent a rough start to breastfeeding. Everything was a fight and I don’t know why I thought that was normal or okay.

When we went in for our initial meeting with our home birth midwife, she basically told me that everything in my last birth plan was moot. I don’t need to tell her not to give me unnecessary pitocin, I don’t need to tell her that I don’t want an epidural, and I most certainly don’t need to stress my desire to breastfeed to her or any of her assistants. It’s just all a given in this territory.

So all the little things last time that could have harmed my breastfeeding relationship won’t be there this time. There won’t be all the bad (and different from each other) advice from the nurses. There won’t be a lactation consultant with very minimal hours that just walks in and pops the baby on without actually explaining anything. There won’t be a doctor worried about my daughter’s “thick blood” (after giving her a vitamin K shot that I didn’t want, which in my opinion caused this) and pushing me to give her Pedialyte.

This time there will be only people around me that support my natural childbirth and breastfeeding. There will be people that can help me rather than confused me. I am choosing to surround myself with only people there to fight for me rather than against me. I will certainly be interested to see how the early month’s of Twig’s breastfeeding relationship contrast the early months of Peanut’s.
 


 
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