Thoughts on Tandem Nursing-One Year Later

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I had always wanted to tandem nurse, ever since Peanut was small. I remember a friend who was tandem nursing thinking I was insane when I told her so. I think it was the ability to bridge the gap from one baby to the next. Helping my older child welcome the new one while still attending to her needs.

It didn’t really turn out how I had hoped. Now that I look back to that conversation, I understand why she was puzzled that I would wish for it. Tandem nursing is hard. It’s very demanding, mostly in an emotional sense. And in my experience, battling postpartum depression didn’t help with that.

I spent a lot of those last few months nursing Peanut angry. Angry that she was asking so much and being so clingy. Angry that I couldn’t get a moment to myself. Angry that I was feeling angry at her. It wasn’t a particularly pleasant part of my life.

Even with that said, I am happy I did it. I am happy that I got to experience tandem nursing. I am happy that I did accomplish bridging that gap.

Sure, it was stressful. Sure, things didn’t end exactly how I had always wanted. What matters is that we did what we needed to for us. I nursed my two little girls together nearly every day to nap and then we all slept together for a peaceful hour or more. At the time I was convinced that nursing my three year old was taking away my sanity, but looking back, I think it actually helped me keep it.

It gave me a way to reconnect even when I was spending so much time yelling. It gave me a way to show her I still loved her, even though this trying time. It gave my girls a way to get to know each other through a common bond. I will forever be grateful for these things.

So even with weaning prematurely. With all the frustration. With all the turmoil going on in my head. I’d do it again in a heartbeat. Just as with so many other things in life, tandem nursing isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

 


 
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3 thoughts on “Thoughts on Tandem Nursing-One Year Later

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  3. What a great story! I never could get comfortable with nursing two children of different ages at the same time… it sounds like it was immensely rewarding for all of you. So great to connect with so many tandem mamas – thank you for sharing your story. I don’t feel so alone now.

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