Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival 2011

This year I’m heading the Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival again and it starts in 9 days! Don’t worry though, there’s still plenty of time to participate!

The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival works like any other blog carnival. There is a specific topic on a specific day that everyone posts on. Then we all link to each other’s blogs so people can read lots of posts on the same subject. The twist with the Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival is that we do this every day for 2 weeks. Don’t worry, you don’t have to participate every day, just as many as you’d like to. Though there are some over-achievers out there that post every day for two weeks.

If you don’t have a blog (or don’t feel comfortable posting on your own blog), you can still participate! We are still looking for guest bloggers for the Breastfeeding Cafe’s blog. Just let me know as soon as possible. Topics are first come first serve! Spots are filling fast, but we still have plenty left. We will not need guest bloggers for the Wordless Wednesdays posts.

This year the Breastfeeding Cafe’s theme is Mothers See! Mothers Do! In public, in pictures, and online too! The topics for the carnival are attempting to stick along this theme. Thanks to all of you who contributed topic ideas! Here is our list of topics:

Monday, July 18—Mothers Before Me: How were you influenced by the mothers before you when it comes to breastfeeding? Did you witness breastfeeding as a child? Was breastfeeding considered taboo in your family? How did this influence your choice to breastfeed?

Tuesday, July 19—Eco-Breastfeeding: The environment is a hot topic at the moment. Was the environment something you considered when you decided to breastfeed? Does the environment come into consideration for other parenting choices you’ve made?

Wednesday, July 20—Wordless Wednesday-Breastfeeding Photos: Show us your breastfeeding photos! Maybe just your favorite or maybe every photo you have, up to you!

Thursday, July 21—Language and Breastfeeding: Most people don’t realize how their language can influence our ideas of breastfeeding. Do you feel this is an issue in our society? If so, how can we change our language to rid our community of the bias against breastfeeding? How do you feel breastfeeding is portrayed by the language in our media?

Friday, July 22—Nursing in Public: What are your views on breastfeeding in public? How do you feel a mother breastfeeding in public influences others in public? Do you feel breastfeeding in public helps to normalize breastfeeding?

Saturday, July 23—Birth Experience: How did your birth experience affect your decision to breastfeed? Did the people present at your child’s birth truly support breastfeeding? Did you get off to a good start or did you have to fight to figure things out? Did you receive good information on breastfeeding from your birth attendants?

Sunday, July 24—Online Breastfeeding: This is the internet age. Many of us log on more than we’d care to admit, but in the case of a new mother that can possibly be a good thing. How did the internet influence your breastfeeding? Did you participate in online forums, Facebook, Twitter, or any other kind of online community? Did this influence your parenting choices? Did these influences help or hinder your efforts?

Monday, July 25—First Nursing in Public Experience: This could be anything from the first time you witnessed a mother breastfeeding in public to the first time you did it yourself. How did you feel about it then? How do you feel about it now?

Tuesday, July 26—Breastfeeding and Multiples: No we’re not just talking about twins, triplets, etc. Any way that you breastfeed with multiple children. Maybe you’ve breastfed while trying to conceive, maybe you’ve breastfed while pregnant, maybe you’ve tandem nursed, maybe you’ve just breastfeed a younger child while chasing the older one. How does breastfeeding help you parent? What are the challenges?

Wednesday, July 27—Wordless Wednesday-Babywearing Photos: Let’s see your favorite babywearing photos! This year at the cafe we will be having a special top-secret babywearing flash mob! There’s still time to participate, so let me know if you’re interested!

Thursday, July 28—Importance of Breastfeeding: Why is breastfeeding personally important to you? Who helped you to first see why breastfeeding would be such a benefit? You know what they say–there’s nothing like word of mouth.

Friday, July 29—Reliable Online Breastfeeding Sources: We all know that it is a mutual blessing and curse that anyone can post on the internet, so what do you do to shield yourself and others from the ones who are wrong? How do you find a good breastfeeding resource online? How do you help other new moms to find good sources of information?

Saturday, July 30—Book Review: Books are a large influence on how we parent and can bring new ideas into light (or help us to shun old ones). Maybe it’s your absolute favorite breastfeeding/parenting book or one you recently read. Maybe it’s one that helped you through the hard times or maybe it’s just advice on what kind of breastfeeding/parenting books to read. Let’s talk about books!

Sunday, July 31—How You Influence Others: What do you think is the most important thing that you do to influence pregnant and new moms to breastfeed? Do you have a story of a mom who you feel you’ve really helped?

Email me at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com and I’ll add you to the email list. I will be sending out a reminder email one week before each topic is supposed to be posted. Posts will need to be up before 12:00pm (noon) Mountain Standard Time on the day specified. Please email me a link to your post as soon as possible (preferably before the day it will be posted) and I will make a list of links (in HTML) that everyone will put on the bottom of their posts. We will also have a blurb about the carnival for you to put at the top of your post (also in HTML). Please make sure that you add the code at the top and bottom of your post so that others can see that you are participating in our carnival and when you receive updates, update them as soon as possible!

Warmly,
Claire
Blog Carnival Mistress

Call For Breastfeeding Photos

Hello All!

As you know, I am heavily involved with the Breastfeeding Cafe. If you go to their site, you can see that in the space that we do the Cafe each year, there are two large glass walls. We’re hoping to fill those walls with photos of moms breastfeeding!

If you’d like your photo(s) to be on the wall, here’s how it works. You’ll send your favorite breastfeeding photo (or favorite per child) to clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com by July 17th along with a release that says it’s okay for us to post it in the Cafe.

Just print off the form at the bottom of this post and sign it, then either take a picture or scan it and send it back along with your photo. If you took the photo or have the rights, all you need to do is sign the release yourself in the first section. If you don’t have the rights to the photo, you will also need the photographer that has the rights to sign the release in the bottom section.

Then tada! You’re featured in the Breastfeeding Cafe and doing one more thing to normalize breastfeeding.

Fill in the information below (please print clearly) photograph or scan and return as attachment:

Name:  _______________________________________________ Phone Number: _____________________________

Home Address: _____________________________________City: ________________________Zip: _________________

I hereby release to the Utah Breastfeeding Coalition and La Leche League of Utah, the right to display, reproduce and publish photographs of myself and my child or children, during the Breastfeeding Cafe. I agree that I have no legal or financial right to the photograph once it has been submitted.

Signature of Breastfeeding Woman ______________________________________________  Date _____________

Names of child/children in photo  ____________________________________________________________________

____________________________________________________________________________ Date ________________________

Signature of Parent or Guardian

Name of Photographer:__________________________________________ Phone Number:_____________________

I understand the above release and give my permission for these photographs to be reproduced by Utah Breastfeeding Coalition and La Leche League of Utah.

Signature of Photographer:_______________________________________________ Date _________________________

Friday Fill-Ins

#189

FFI

And…here we go!

1. Music blasting with the windows down is my favorite way to drive.

2. More sleep is what I like first thing in the morning.

3. The first thing I said this morning was: “We don’t hit Mommy to wake her up!”.

4. Marinated chicken; it’s what’s for dinner tonight.

5. It’s all been a very stressful summer. Painting, moving, Breastfeeding Cafe, our Canadian in town (yes, we own him), then school starts again! No breaks here!

6. Blogging is what I feel like doing right now, but I shall go pick up Peanut from her Oma and Opa’s instead.

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I’m looking forward to going to the fair, tomorrow my plans include driving to Wyoming for chickens and Sunday, I want to finish cleaning the house before our very first guest staying in our new home arrives Monday!

We’ll add some fun linkage too!

Check out my photos at At Mother’s Breast (my post about them will hopefully be up tomorrow).

Look out for the post with LOTS of pictures from the Babywearing Fashion Show (also hopefully up tomorrow).

And I absolutely can not get enough of reading Heather and Kristi. Seriously, you guys should post every 20 minutes so I can read it. :-P

The Best Start Possible

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is things we’d like to share with our nurslings about what it means for us to breastfeed. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st! 


 
Breastfeeding you is just the beginning, but it’s the best start I can give you.

As you grow older, breastfeeding will become just one of the many parts of your life. More important things will happen in your life. Breastfeeding will fall into the background. Breastfeeding will not be something you think about every day as you do now. Breastfeeding will be part of what made you, but no longer immediately important.

You may not care whether or not you breastfed when you are 10 or 20 or 30, but one day you will. One day you will come to me when you are pregnant and want to know. You will want the full details of problems we faced, how long you nursed, why I we nursed to begin with.

I will tell you that even though it was such a short period of time in the grand scheme of things, it was a very important part of your life. It helped you to reach your full potential and be as happy and healthy as I wanted you to be. It was only the first few years of your life, but it was important to me. It made you happy. It made me happy. It made the world around as just work. I will tell you that you were a very happy baby and toddler and that even the times you weren’t very happy, breast milk made you happy again. I will tell you that there were difficult times too, but we worked hard and fixed our problems because I knew it would be worth it.

One day, I will help you to have this same special relationship we have with my future grandson or granddaughter. You will understand why I fought so hard to keep our relationship going and give other women the opportunity to have this relationship too. You’ll understand that while it’s only the first 1/20th of your life or less, it’s still incredibly important. It is giving you the best start possible.

 


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Facing It As It Comes

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This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about child-led weaning. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!


I obviously haven’t had a child wean yet. Peanut is 16 months old and we have no plans of stopping. I’ve written before about how I used to think I’d stop when Peanut was one year old. Of course, that was before she was actually here. Stopping now would be way too much strain on both of us both emotionally and physically. I don’t even know how I would parent without breastfeeding!

Weirdly enough, I got more questions about when I was going to stop before Peanut was a year old than I do now. Maybe it’s because I’m more confident now? Maybe it’s because they figure that if I’m still going, I’m probably not stopping soon? Maybe it’s just that I’m lucky so far.

I am lucky actually. I’m lucky enough to have the people around me support our breastfeeding relationship. This extends to my friends too. The friends who I was afraid to breastfeed in front of when Peanut was tiny don’t even bat an eye now. These people just see it as part of who we are.

Peanut doesn’t nurse much in public anymore. Not because I’m against it, but because she’s too busy. When she does nurse in public, I try to view every time as a teaching moment. Not for me or her, but for the people around us. I feel that every time that I breastfeed in public that I’m helping to normalize breastfeeding for the people around me.

I’m sure it will get more difficult as she gets older—we’re not even past the World Health Organization’s minimum. I am already expecting some backlash from certain family members. I’m sure that I’ll get more complains as she gets older when she nurses in public. I’m sure that it will bother my friends more.

I’m also hoping that the people around me will see her breastfeed regularly enough that it won’t be a big deal to see her nursing as she gets older. I also know that if they can’t respect our breastfeeding relationship enough to not try to interfere that they’re probably not worth it. Of course questions are always welcome, but I hear of other moms being told they need to stop and that is simply wrong. People like that just won’t have a place in our lives.

Guess we’ll just have to face all of that when it comes.

 


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Breastfeeding In My Family

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about family and breastfeeding. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!


My family dynamics in my immediate family have worked to my advantage for breastfeeding. It may seem weird from the outside,  but my husband gets me stuff a lot. Not going out and buying stuff, but if I’m sitting down he’ll get up and get me things I need. I’m not entirely sure how this started, but it’s just what we do. Of course, I’ll get up and get most things for myself, but when I’m otherwise occupied, he’ll get them for me. I do it for him too, but not nearly as much.

This became very important when I stared breastfeeding. Especially in those early days, it was very, very useful for me for him to bring me a glass of water or something to eat or my cell phone or my book. It meant I could focus on the task at hand and not really have to worry about my other needs so much. Even now, 16 months into the breastfeeding relationship, he still takes care of me a lot. A few nights ago I forgot to turn the light off when I was trying to nurse Peanut to sleep. Yes, I could have gotten up and walked across the room and turned off the light myself, but that would have ruined all of the progress I had with getting her to sleep. My husband came all the way upstairs and turned the light off for me without a single complaint.

Breastfeeding has also changed my extended family’s dynamics. As far as I know, I am the first person in my family who has breastfed for a long time and the only person in my husband’s besides one cousin who lives across the country. When I first started breastfeeding Peanut, you could easily see how uncomfortable everyone was—myself included! I would leave the room to feed her. Even after I felt comfortable enough to stay in the room, others would leave when I started breastfeeding. Now it’s just become normal. Everyone stays where they are an acts like Peanut isn’t even nursing. Some of them will even continue to play with Peanut while she nurses!

I think a big part of it is how you look at breastfeeding. Many of the complaints that your family may have about your breastfeeding and the awkwardness that it can create even if they don’t complain is due to thinking that breastfeeding is sexual. No, they don’t think “breasts are for sex so babies eating is sex!”, but there is a mentality there. Breastfeeding can not be gross to see in public if it is not sexual. Breastfeeding can not be inappropriate if it is not sexual. You do not need to leave the room if it is not sexual. There is nothing to hide.

If you can keep this mentality and display it to your family, hopefully they can be more accepting of your breastfeeding relationship. Even if you’re afraid, just try to pretend you’re confident. When you’re confident, people are less likely to try to make you feel awkward. This goes for family as much as it goes for people you don’t know.

 


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Wordless Wednesday: Every Babywearing Photo

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is Wordless Wednesday: Babywearing Photos! Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st! 


 

I would have thought that wearing her nearly every day of her life would produce more photos. We also don’t have any from our non-Sleepy Wrap carriers. Guess I have a new assignment for myself!

 


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Mothering in Second Place

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about mothering through breastfeeding. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!


There are many benefits of being a stay-at-home parent. One of which is not favoritism. I go to school in the fall and spring, but in the summer I am a full-time SAHM. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love it. If I weren’t setting back my education by years and consequentially going into repayment of my student loans, I would stay at home 100% of the time all of the time. One of the downsides to staying at home is that I am no longer the preferred parent. When my husband leaves for the day, she’s following him out the door crying. When he gets home at night, she’s ecstatic. Most of the time lately when I ask her to say “mama” she says “dada” instead.

Daddy is the favorite—except when it’s time to nurse.

When it’s time to nurse, she is all over me. She wants me and only me—daddy simply will not do. Daddy can’t even distract her for a few minutes. She. Wants. Mama. NOW! When I’m sitting down preparing myself, she comes running across the room squealing. When she’s nursing, she wants to play with me. She loves me to kiss her on the forehead. She laughs the hardest when I tickler her while she’s nursing. Nursing is probably her favorite thing in the world right now and I am glad for it.

Sometimes on days when I feel like all she can do is whine at me, I nurse her and feel the rush of happiness hormones and suddenly forget my bad mood. Sometimes I nurse her just because I need to sit down for a minute instead chasing after her. Sometimes I nurse her just because I want to play while she’s doing it. Often, I just nurse her to reconnect.

There are many reasons why I started to nurse her. There are many reasons why I keep nursing her. There are many reasons why I plan on nursing her as long as she’ll let me. Within all of these reasons, there is one resounding theme—breastfeeding makes mothering easier.

 


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Co-sleeping and Breastfeeding to Function

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about nighttime parenting and nursing. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!


At Peanut’s 12 month check-up, the Pediatrician asked how often she wakes up at night. My honest answer? I don’t know.

That’s the beauty of co-sleeping while breastfeeding, isn’t it? She stirs, I “wake up” (which is totally not waking up at all), plop her on, and go back to sleep. I don’t even remember this “waking up” the next day.

I’ve always been big on sleep. Like, I’m one of those people who can sleep 12 hours and still feel tired. I am one of those people who can not live on 5 hours of sleep. There is no amount of coffee that can cure my tiredness when I don’t get enough sleep.

I’ve also dealt with insomnia my whole life—at times being bad enough that I’ve had to resort to a certain prescription that people basically black out if they take it and try to stay awake and it still didn’t make me go to sleep. I’m fine with staying asleep once I’m there, but if I’m awake, getting to sleep is nearly impossible.

I was convinced I wouldn’t co-sleep with Peanut. I bought a crib and tried on multiple occasions to put her to sleep in it, but me staying awake through the nursing and getting her deeply enough asleep that she wouldn’t wake up when I set her down just ended up with her sleeping in the crib next to me, me lying awake for an hour, then her waking up a half hour after I finally fall asleep to eat again.

Yes, she woke up every 90 minutes all night long—for the first six months or so of her life. She nursed every 90ish minutes 24 hours a day until she sat upright and started solid foods. Even after that, it was every 2-3 hours. She had really bad reflux and the few times she slept longer than that, she would wake up screaming in pain. There was an adjustment period where my body got used to waking up and going back to sleep so often, but when I look back at those days now, I have a sneaking suspicion that I was much more rested than other moms of newborns.

16 months later, we’re still co-sleeping. Even now, I do not think I could function without co-sleeping and breastfeeding.

 


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Breastfeeding Twins: What I Wish I’d Known

Welcome to The Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival!

This post was written as part of The Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about nursing in special circumstances. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th through the 31st!


This post is a guest post by a lovely lady named Angela. Angela is mom to two 22 month old twins and an 8 month old boy. You can read Mrs. LaLa’s blog at www.emptyuterus.wordpress.com. Thanks to Angela for letting me publish her story!

On September 23, 2009 I became a mother for the very first time. After over four years of infertility, I finally had my twin girls. They were ten weeks early and very sick so I knew how important it was to breastfeed them. The first thing I asked for when I got out of the recovery room after my c-section was a breast pump. The next two months while they recovered in the NICU were a haze of waking up at all hours to pump, living at the NICU and dreaming of the day when my daughters would be healthy enough to nurse from my breast. When I was pregnant with them I used to day-dream about sitting in a quiet room, rocking them softy and nursing them to sleep…it just seemed like such a “mom” thing to do. Something I had wanted for so long. Unfortunately, that dream was not realized until more than a year later when my son Nolan was born (full term and healthy as can be).

Evelynn and Lennon, because of their small size and numerous heath issues, never latched well. I was told repeatedly by doctors and nurses whenever I did put them to the breast that I needed to do it AFTER they had already been fed from a bottle and that it was “non-nutritive sucking”. I pumped milk for my daughters for four months and tried everything I could think of to get them to nurse but it never worked out and I was always too worried about them getting enough milk to ever relax and trust that my body could provide for them.

When the girls had been home for a month or two I began suffering from debilitating migraines and was told that in order to treat them I would have to give up pumping breast milk for my girls because the only medications available for treating the headaches would be passed through my breast milk and were harmful. I cried when I came home from the doctor’s appointment and told my husband that we were going to have to put the girls on formula. I felt so guilty because I was secretly relieved – pumping milk for 45 minutes at a time (to get enough for two babies) 8 times per day while also trying to care for two very sick little girls was really more than I could handle anyway.

At four months of age the twins went on formula full time. They struggled with constipation and began catching frequent colds (neither of which were an issue while on breast milk) but otherwise did well on it.

It was about this time that I found out that I was (VERY unexpectedly) pregnant with my son. When he was born 9 months later – healthy and full-term – I wanted to try breastfeeding again. My son was born in a different hospital then my girls were—a “Baby Friendly” hospital. What a difference! Although I am disappointed that they took my son from me immediately following my c-section and did not bring him to me to nurse for over four hours after his birth because they were “low on staff”—the rest of my experience with this hospital and with breastfeeding my son have been wonderful. This hospital made sure to facilitate breastfeeding in any way possible. They offered as much assistance as necessary (they even have a free breastfeeding clinic that my son and I can go to, anytime, for as long as I continue to nurse him).

Gone were the sore nipples I experienced with the girls. Gone are the insecurities. Gone is the sink full of crusty, stinky bottles that need to be washed and steamed on a daily basis!

The bottom line, what I wish I’d known: Breastfeeding is not supposed to hurt. If it hurts, your baby is not latched right. A bad latch is surprisingly easy to correct and most newborns do latch poorly because they are just so tiny. Whenever I would begin feeding Nolan as a newborn I would make sure that his lips were not tucked under his gums. IF they were, I would slide in a finger to “unhook” them. I would then gently pull down on his jaw to widen his latch. Voila! No more pain.

Secondly: I wish I’d known with the girls that non-nutritive sucking is BS. If a baby is sucking on a breast, they are getting milk (this may not ALWAYS be the case, but it is true more often than not) and a baby does NOT swallow if they are not getting milk. (It’s true, pay attention the next time you give your little one a pacifier, NO swallowing sounds.) If your baby is sucking and swallowing (at least every third suck they should be swallowing, if they are not you may have low supply) then they are breastfeeding successfully.

You can re-lactate. All you need is a breast-pump and Fenugreek. I wish I had known about Fenugreek earlier. I tried Reglan to bring up my supply with the girls and it gave me horrible panic attacks (which it does for many people). Fenugreek works just as well with no side effects.

A baby, full on breast milk, will usually still drink a bottle of formula. Babies like to suck. It’s what they do. It does NOT mean that your baby didn’t get enough milk from the breast or that they are still hungry. My younger twin used to breastfeed and then take a bottle and then she would throw up. We thought she had reflux. We were over-feeding her.

Nolan is 8 months old now and, because of a new position that I took on at work, I had to partially wean him to formula. Since I can no longer pump 2 or 3 times a day while at work to produce enough milk for him to have while I am not at home, my husband gives him formula during the day. When I get home from work, before I leave in the morning and all weekend long, he nurses. I do not have supply issues and this is working out just great for us.

 


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