I found out the other day that a girl who I went to high school with deleted me from her friends on Facebook. This wasn’t just any girl from high school though. She was in my prom group (there were only 3 couples, so kind of a big deal), she came to my wedding, she was one of 3 of my friends who came to my baby shower. She is LDS, but I had her categorized as one of the good ones that doesn’t judge me or hate me for not being religious. Reasonably, I felt hurt.
I assumed there was some mistake, so I texted her. She admitted to it and said “It was selfish on my part and I stand by it.”
I Twitter. I’ve been Tweeting for some time and it has always updated my Facebook status. As of the last few months, I’ve been using Twitter to it’s full extent and following things that I’m interested in. Along with my friends, I follow CNN, Al Gore, various mommybloggers, and–most important for the sake of this story–many breastfeeding activists. I quite often retweet things the people that I follow say. It’s mostly links to articles, but I retweet them because I have people who follow me and I have friends on facebook who want to read these articles.
Apparently, I offended her? She says “I could live without constant detail of your breasts and their milk and your use of profanities.” This is the breakdown of my tweets for the last 6 days before this discussion: 38 tweets total (that would be posted to Facebook… so no @replys), 7 were about breastfeeding, 4 had profanity. Of the 7 that were about breastfeeding, 5 were retweets and 2 were actually referring to me breastfeeding. The profanity is something that I find reasonable to be offended about–even if I don’t agree with it. But breastfeeding? Breastfeeding is offending you? Oh my. This is bad.
I will admit that one of the two tweets was about me using breastmilk to cure Peanut’s eye infection…
Though I wish I could change everyone’s opinion on breastfeeding, it is simply not possible. So instead, I will say that if you find what I say or do offensive or disrespectful and you’re not willing to deal with it, I’m not willing to deal with you.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because people who mind don’t matter and people who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Suess